One participant made a wonderful point – you cannot communicate well, with a compassionate heart, unless you are speaking that way to yourself.
She realized that her internal communication wasn’t as positive as she wanted it to be and it often created a negative internal environment for her. From that environment, it was difficult to be anything but negative in expressing herself. She discovered that to be externally compassionate, internal compassion needed to happen first.
This idea prompted another participant to ask her how it was she knew her internal environment was negative. She said the easiest thing to do was turn to her feelings – how was she feeling in that moment. Happy and free? Weighed down and fearful? Your feelings will always reveal the answers.